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    The necessity of fear

    So I don't want my life to be driven by fear. I recognize though that there are some fears that if not ingrained into my life, I wouldn't have a life to live (primal fears "don't walk into that large sharp object" kind of stuff).

    To a certain extent "higher" types of fears can also be linked to something primal. For instance, the fear of rejection: it's to our benefit to be accepted into some kind of community, this way we're much more protected against outside attackers.... but life is more complex than that now.

    So

    Where and how do we draw the line?

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    Fear isn't there to make you afraid. It's there to make you aware.

    That said, anxiety attacks are total mindfucks.
    Most of time, when people ask why something terrible happened, they don't realize they are looking for someone to blame.

    --Meditations on Uncertainty Vol ξ(x)

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    Most of modern fear is social in nature, and in such, generally irrational.

    "The truth is that the value we set upon the opinion of others, and our constant endeavor in respect of it, are each quite out of proportion to any result we may reasonably hope to attain(...). In all we do, almost the first thing we think about is, what will people say; and nearly half the troubles and bothers of life may be traced to our anxiety on this score (...).

    Now, it is obvious that happiness, which consists for the most part in peace of mind and contentment, would be served by nothing so much as by reducing this impulse of human nature within reasonable limits,--which would perhaps make it one fiftieth part of what it is now. (...)

    The only way of putting an end to this universal folly is to see clearly that it is a folly; and this may be done by recognizing the fact that most of the opinions in men's heads are apt to be false, perverse, erroneous and absurd, and so in themselves unworthy of attention; further, that other people's opinions can have very little real and positive influence upon us in most of the circumstances and affairs of life.

    [T]he result would be such an addition to our piece of mind and cheerfulness as at present seems inconceivable; people would present a firmer and more confident front to the world, and generally behave with less embarrassment and restraint."

    Arthur Schopenhauer.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sloth View Post
    So I don't want my life to be driven by fear.
    I think there's a difference between fear and caution. I am driven by caution, while being tempted by fear. In other words, I'm more likely to rise up to the challenge of fear, than back down and run away. It's probably going to get me killed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mxx View Post
    I think there's a difference between fear and caution. I am driven by caution, while being tempted by fear. In other words, I'm more likely to rise up to the challenge of fear, than back down and run away. It's probably going to get me killed.
    One of my teenage embarassments happened on a leadership retreat--I was part of a group being groomed for leadership roles in my church. It was night and we were playing in the snow in the woods. I got it in my head to climb up a hillside with an inflated inner-tube, intending to leap out onto on a steeply dropping path that would join up with the more sedate track for such tobogganery. Unfortunately, I uttered my intention aloud, and one of the girls heard me.

    I got to where I wanted to be, and the girl who heard me announced my plan to make sure all eyes were on me--in retrospect, she may have just been making sure my current crush was watching. I couldn't get firm enough footing in the snow to be confident of the leap, and ended up missing the jump, watching the tube slide down without me, and trudging back down in defeat. Ten minutes later our ESTP pulled it off to much joyous whooping.

    The incident also cost me a button on my trench coat.
    Most of time, when people ask why something terrible happened, they don't realize they are looking for someone to blame.

    --Meditations on Uncertainty Vol ξ(x)

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