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    How to spot Thinkers and Feelers

    From The Art of Speedreading People

    Thinkers Feelers
    • Act cooler, more distant toward others
    • May seem insensitive
    • May be blunt and tactless
    • Often appear businesslike
    • May argue or debate for fun
    • Are more "thick-skinned"
    • Get right to the point
    • Seldom ask if timing is convenient
    • Appear low-key and matter-of-fact
    • Give praise sparingly
    • Are usually very assertive
    • Use impersonal language
    • Use people's names sparingly
    • Often engaged in jobs of strategy
    • Are more likely to be male (65% chance)
    • Act warmer, friendlier toward others
    • Are very sensitive to others' feelings
    • Are usually very gentle and diplomatic
    • Engage in social niceties
    • Avoid arguments, conflict and confrontation
    • Have their feelings hurt more easily
    • Engage in small talk first
    • Ask if timing is convenient
    • May appear excited and emotional
    • Are generous with praise
    • May lack assertiveness
    • Use lots of "value" words
    • Use people's names frequently
    • Are often involved in helping jobs
    • Are more likely to be female (65% chance)

    How else are you able to spot Thinking or Feeling preferences?

    Using a work example - Feelers tend to cover their workspace with lots of photos of family, loved ones, friends. And they also seem to decorate for the season: Christmas, Halloween, etc.

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    I identify with the thinker column a lot more. Except, for example, I mix "gentle and diplomatic" with blunt tactlessness and getting right to the point. I think this confuses people a bit when they're getting to know me, because their idea of me might change in an instant. They'll be shocked for a while and then assume I'm secretly kind of a jerk. A nice jerk though.

    Another thing is that I don't debate for fun. I don't bother unless I care to convince someone of a point of view. That's not trivial to me.

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    Apparently I'm an INFP

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    I'm a feeler, according to that. Everything except "avoid arguments, confrontations, and conflicts." They need to be done if it is justified.
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    This is the dichotomy, imo, where other factors playing into personality presentation are most apparent.

    Act warmer, friendlier toward others
    Are very sensitive to others' feelings
    Are usually very gentle and diplomatic
    Engage in social niceties
    Avoid arguments, conflict and confrontation

    Are all coping skills for low self-esteem for example.

    Also, Even though fMRI studies confirm a dichotomy in male/female brain wiring, I'm not so convinced that there is or should be a bias as it relates to Jungian Types.

    Tangent:
    I just watched a TED where a researcher looking into the biological bases of 'Love' suggested, for example, that natural selection would favor females engaging in eye contact and face to face conversation because of infant nurturing needs. Whereas males converse sitting side by side with little eye to eye contact so as they can scan the horizon for opportunities and threats.

    Thus presentation-wise, there is an apparent bias, but I think it is just an apparent one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrionzRevenge View Post
    This is the dichotomy, imo, where other factors playing into personality presentation are most apparent.

    Act warmer, friendlier toward others
    Are very sensitive to others' feelings
    Are usually very gentle and diplomatic
    Engage in social niceties
    Avoid arguments, conflict and confrontation

    Are all coping skills for low self-esteem for example.
    The dichotomy is just based on correlations of traits. "Friendly" and "sensitive" are correlate much higher than "friendly" and "assertive".

    Also are they coping skills for low self-esteem?!
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    ^^^imo, yes. As it relates to casual presentation.
    Where they are in an environment where they need to interact with others--- The sort of situation where another would be speedreading them.

    Attempts to avoid critique or disfavor.

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    Quote Originally Posted by OrionzRevenge View Post
    There is something wonky going on, as I have no text editing tools atm.
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    This is the dichotomy, imo, where other factors playing into personality presentation are most apparent.

    Act warmer, friendlier toward others
    Are very sensitive to others' feelings
    Are usually very gentle and diplomatic
    Engage in social niceties
    Avoid arguments, conflict and confrontation

    Are all coping skills for low self-esteem for example.
    Uhh yeah I do that, hahaha. Except not really -- it's mostly 2, 3 and 5, and only more so compared to my twin sister, which doesn't say much because she's known for being blunt and I'm known for not really having anything nice to say. That is, I care about others' moods only insofar as they affect me, not because I actually care about them. I don't know if it's low self-esteem or what, since it's been going on even before my insecurity skyrocketed. I mostly take it as a sign of weak inferior Fe.

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    ^^^ there are a lot of normal and abnormal emotional things that can skew the T/F read imo.

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    I look for clues in what they say and how they say it.

    For instance, the usual pattern I see is that Thinkers sooner speak of and/or appeal to that which reduces to impersonal principles if not logic, reason or facts... whereas Feelers sooner speak of and/or appeal to that which reduces to personal beliefs if not ethical convictions, social propriety, or community qua "humanity".

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