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    Being naked

    How comfortable are you with being naked around other people? With nudity near you?

    Were you exposed to nudity as a kid? Was it a normal thing for you or do you associate some sort of feeling to the experience?

    At what point in time did you become conscious of being naked yourself?

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    This came up the other night in a conversation with my housemates. We watched Carrie then we all ended up having a conversation about becoming aware of our bodies and on nudity and nakedness at home. It came out that they’d all had parents who would regularly be naked around the house, which I guess was kind of cool because that was my experience too. It was never a weird thing for me, until I learned that apparently lots of other people don’t live that way. Then it was still normal while I was home, but kind of a private embarassment whenever I was in public and reminded that other people were not like us.

    It was very much a non-issue for me seeing people naked, but at the same time, I didn’t take part in it, and probably would have been discouraged if I had past the normal age of being very young and running around naked all the time. But my mom, especially, was pretty blasé about covering up at home, and because she never acted weird about it, it never felt weird to me.

    I can remember one particular time when I was maybe 7 or 8 I went on a sleepover at a friend’s house and she ran a bath and then I suddenly realised that the expectation was that we would bathe together in the same bath, and I just couldn’t do it.

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    pretty comfortable. i've seen a lot of naked body, in non-sexual contexts. it started with life drawing classes which i took throughout my teens, then while traveling i learned i'm really comfortable bathing around other women (when on a trip to japan i actually preferred the communal baths).

    i get really curious about what people look like naked, in a non-sexual way. it's probably those classes, idk. i've, uh, modeled for my own drawings before and asked people to do that for me, when i had to.

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    I grew up very prudish, and my family wasn't open about things. I don't remember running around naked, tho I'm sure it happened. Probably the extent of it was my mom coming into the dressing room at stores, but I tried to avoid that after she started critiquing things about my body. Now I really like being naked if I'm in a comfortable environment. I've been naked in a hot spring with my brother and his friends, but felt like I needed to check with him first to make sure it wasn't weird.

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    ^ i don't think i'd be comfortable being the only naked woman around other naked men, in most cases. the vulnerability would probably feel threatening. in that hot spring situation, though, what i've done was just go in with a bathing suit.

    Quote Originally Posted by gator View Post
    I can remember one particular time when I was maybe 7 or 8 I went on a sleepover at a friend’s house and she ran a bath and then I suddenly realised that the expectation was that we would bathe together in the same bath, and I just couldn’t do it.
    at that age my brother and i were still regularly showering together, but i think it was more about saving money and water.

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    Pretty comfortable. I was raised around hippy communes of Northern California.

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    i just had another weird memory. as a child i used to take baths with my cousin a lot and she was really, really not ashamed of being naked. she'd show me her privates a lot and be like "why is mine so wrinkly?" and at her 11th birthday party she invited a bunch of kids (mostly girls but at least one person's little brother showed up) and what was at first a kind of bra-fitting became her stripping in front of everybody. in her room with the door closed and all the kids inside, she stood on a chair, took off her clothes and started twirling them around, going "woooooo!" it was so fucking weird, but that's her personality and she found it really fun and hilarious or something.

    she's interesting, though. she was like a kind of prodigy probably. she was playing stuff like chopin at age 9 after only playing piano for two years (that's hard, right?). during her playing she'd emote pretty heavily, and all the adults used to tell me to be like her, and make expressions like that. she eventually went to college for music but idk what she's doing now.

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    Quote Originally Posted by sandwitch View Post
    I grew up very prudish, and my family wasn't open about things.
    Yes, same. Like yours my parents were both religious, but actually pushed less the religious side of it (they really don't care less about my being a stone cold atheist) than the puritanical morality - so I can't ever remember being not aware of it per se. I remember some kids in primary school (say about 9 or 10) giggling at some nudity in a geography book when I was at school. The teacher pointed out that there was nothing shameful about the human body and it wasn't funny. I seem to remember respecting the eminent logic of the argument, which seemed a lot more sensible that my family's weird attitudes. But as I've learnt accepting the logic of an argument isn't the same as one's psychological instincts in the world. I wasn't really used to or saw nudity until I got access to the internet as a teenager, and sad to say that kind of clandestine solitary attitude to it probably still informs my psychology more than I would wish. Although I am not as bad as I was (with an accompanying sense of shame - my sister naturally regards all internet porn as something that should be banned). Not that this is uncommon here in Britain, we're a pretty repressed bunch, I kind of find the whole attitude on the continent a whole lot healthier - at the spa baths in Hungary it was a matter of the highest indifference. I still get this weird sense in art galleries where I am looking a a nude painting and wonder if someone else is judging me for doing so.

    Actually sometimes it is kind of amusing. I remember some miscommunication which resulted in my dad thinking I was ashamed of masturbation (as apparently he was) - but it was okay on the bizarre historical justification that supposedly people used to get married younger. I kind of felt it strange that he ever thought that was an issue in the first place.
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    Quote Originally Posted by gator View Post
    How comfortable are you with being naked around other people? With nudity near you?
    Nudity in general makes me uncomfortable. I'm going to leave it at that. I tried to write more about it, but I'm struggling. Oddly enough though, I don't feel as uncomfortable if I have to expose parts of my body in a doctors office... somehow it doesn't bother me as much when it's clinical.

    Were you exposed to nudity as a kid? Was it a normal thing for you or do you associate some sort of feeling to the experience?
    As a small child I took baths with siblings, and sometimes cousins. That became inappropriate at maybe around the age of 5 or 6? I still changed in front of my sister from time to time. That was about it. My mom even bought us little undershirts to wear to school so when we changed for gym we wouldn't expose our nipples to other girls in our class. This was pre-puberty.

    At what point in time did you become conscious of being naked yourself?
    I guess maybe when the bath thing became inappropriate, but I knew I was naked before that. I just didn't think it was anything shameful before then.

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    We don't do the "shared showers" thing here at gyms and stuff. I would not get naked in front of a bunch of women. I also don't like seeing naked bodies. My sisters and I never went around naked unless you count a very young age.

    I see bodies as comprised of public and private parts and I don't see anything terribly reactionary about that concept. I suppose there is something "wrong" with men being allowed to be topless while women aren't, but I don't really mind having an extra zone of my body that's just for me (and whoever I'm intimate with).

    I don't think there's any objective reason to be self-conscious about my body but I don't like being naked infront of someone beyond intimate acts. After that, I go back to prudish behavior like covering up or wanting to be alone/not looked at while I'm changing my clothes. I also used to have a problem doing anything without the lights off, but got over it. It had a bit to do with my exes; one of them suspected I was an anorexic and the other obsessively monitored any extra grams I put on as if they were preannouncing a future descent into Becoming Fat.
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