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    Did your parents want you?

    Or were you an accident? If so, when did you find out, and do you feel like this knowledge affected your self esteem?

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    I assume they wanted me because I wasn't aborted
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    I like the fucked up spin to the question from the start.

    Just because you're an accident doesn't mean you're unwanted. Just as being planned doesn't necessarily mean you're what your parents wanted.


    Shit ain't that easy.

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    yeah, they got two kids, a boy and girl. what a perfect family
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    At my mom's age I had a one in 45 chance of having downs. So, yes and no.

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    You know, it's never really crossed my mind to ask...

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    When you're adopted the answer is both No and Yes.

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    Actually the answer for me is sort of yes to both, accident and wanted. My parents wanted children, and lots of them. They ended up with five of us, spaced over 20 years, and they would have had more but my mom was 45 when the youngest was born and it was kind of an ordeal for her so it's probably for the best that she went through menopause soon thereafter. I thought they were pretty laissez-faire about when pregnancy happened, but I found out when I got pregnant with my first child that my siblings and I were all conceived despite marginal attempts at birth control (diaphragm). So from what I can tell, we were all wanted, but not exactly planned. I never felt unloved or unwanted in the slightest.

    My first child was also... conceived ahead of schedule, we'll say, but very much wanted and loved. She knows her story and that we were scared shitless, but also thrilled when she came along.

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    I found out in the last three years that I was a "planned accident." My mom was ready for kids and made the decision to either stop using birth control, or sabotage it without telling my dad; I'm not sure of the finer details, nor do I care to. It's not as scandalous as it could be--my parents were already married, and they both wanted kids eventually. My dad is pretty awesome so he came around quickly, I assume, I never got the feeling of being unwanted.
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    I dimly recall them telling me they spent a couple of years trying to conceive me, having to consult doctors and whatnot. So I was worth some effort, apparently.

    Though they also said they were sort of working under an intuitive assumption that I would be a girl--that they had sort of defined their ideal family as having two daughters.

    They called it quits after me and my two brothers. LOL.
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