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    Quick one..

    I tried to Google this but argh, there are so many different ways to go about this...

    So, my question...

    If you meet someone, and both "dates" have been referred to as "casual" and "spontaneous" and are always planned on the day and not prior - is this a time waster or is this how its done these days?

    Baring in mind, this person has A LOT of baggage and I am a "planner"..

    Annnnd go!

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    There's no real "How it's done" structure fit relationships, they can be as unique as the people who make them. In fact, I'd suggest that trying to force a relationship to fit a preformed model because that's how it is usually done can lead to misunderstanding, assumptions, and expectations that may not be ideal for that situation.

    All that really matters is if it works for you guys.

    Is this something you can be comfortable with? Are you getting enough of what you want and giving what you are willing to give in return? If you want more of one thing or another, say structure, can you negotiate that? Are you both clear and agreed about what is expected?
    Is there room in your life for this person and what they offer?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sam_11 View Post
    I tried to Google this but argh, there are so many different ways to go about this...

    So, my question...

    If you meet someone, and both "dates" have been referred to as "casual" and "spontaneous" and are always planned on the day and not prior - is this a time waster or is this how its done these days?

    Baring in mind, this person has A LOT of baggage and I am a "planner"..

    Annnnd go!
    You're a guy, right? What time of the day were the dates and what happened on them?

    /indiscreet
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    According to Avril Lavigne, if you're a boy and she's a girl, it can't be any more obvious.
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    If you want my completely amateur opinion, you're a secondary, or even tertiary choice maybe?
    I mean, first choice should be getting at least 24 hours of notice.

    Post a picture and we'll all judge you.
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