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    singularity precursor Limes's Avatar
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    Yup! I did.
    My mother would frequently take my brother and I aside from a very early age, right into our teens to give us "the talk" about getting some hood rat girl pregnant (as-in do not)

    She would also grill us before even heading out the front door (usually to cross into the downtown shopping district or "up town") with a stern "don't you dare show me up" ("show me up" is a regional phrase that can be best explained as being embarrassed by friends/family) - as a result (and the fear of getting a rap of knuckles to the head) we were generally well behaved and nothing like the spoiled fucking brats of the modern day, politically correct anti smack, positives vibes, everyone's a winner zeitgeist of parenting.

    After about 45 years as a night nurse, mostly in geriatrics, my mom also cannot be fazed.

    I had her do the test a few years ago and she scored INFJ, but I don't really think that's accurate. She can be quite extroverted (and loud!) and might be more sensor than intuitive and more P than J, definitely not an archetype of any MBTI dichotomy anyway.

    My mom also had four older brothers, and a tough as nails war mother, and Navy boxer dad so that's probably a factor in personality too.
    Last edited by Limes; 02-22-2019 at 01:12 PM.

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    Nah not really. She was a single parent, so I don't know if she could have done any better. I was cooking and washing all my clothes from when I was about 11. I would walk to school or catch the bus so she left it up to us to wake up and get ready. E.g. she would often leave before I woke up. I started taking lots of time off school from when I was about 14. weeks/a month. I was not in a good way. She would scream and say I've got to sort my shit out, which I didn't seem able. I could have done better. But, given she was a fully grown human at that point, it does seem like she wasn't that capable of being an adult. I think she spent the majority of the time battling her own issues/anxieties of being alone, and then the feelings of resentment and so on.

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    Sometimes I watch wildlife documentaries and wonder what it's like to have a loving, warm mammal as a mother. But then the thought of a human mother repels me.

    I envy the reptiles who are left to fend for themselves without having to deal with the societal pressure of people thinking you should love your mother.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Mxx View Post
    Sometimes I watch wildlife documentaries and wonder what it's like to have a loving, warm mammal as a mother. But then the thought of a human mother repels me.

    I envy the reptiles who are left to fend for themselves without having to deal with the societal pressure of people thinking you should love your mother.
    You must love your mother - there's no grandchildren in the picture, so why do you bother with visits?

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    Mine was great, other than being religious. Well she was religious in a good way, but post menopause she went non linear. Never could seem to understand that me being an atheist isn't a choice but rather I'm incapable of belief.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Limes View Post
    we were generally well behaved and nothing like the spoiled fucking brats of the modern day, politically correct anti smack, positives vibes, everyone's a winner zeitgeist of parenting.

    Are your kids really that bad?

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